C'mon....Really?...This Wanna Be Young Boy Confused Badly Dressed Old Man???!!!!????

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Karl Lagerfeld is being sued over derogatory 'fat' remarks

The 80-year-old Chanel creative director has made no secret of his distain for overweight people

Sophie Tighe – Wed, Oct 30, 2013 12:33 GMT

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Karl Lagerfeld is being sued by an activist group after making a series of derogatory remarks against "curvy women".

Karl Lagerfeld is being sued by a French activist group over "defamatory and discriminatory comments"

Chanel creative director and head designer Karl has made no secret of his opinions of plus sized models and women in the past but is now being taken to court over his controversial claims.

The group called Belle, Ronde, Sexy et Je M'assume (translated: Pretty, Curvy, Sexy and Fine with it) have blasted the 80-year-old’s comments as “defamatory and discriminatory” and president Betty Aubriere has had enough.

"We're fed up,” Betty told AFP.

“Many young girls are insecure and hearing such comments is terrible for them.”

Man!!! I been waiting for this a long time! I heard about Karl Largerfeld's comments long before now and it seemed to me then that no-one seemed to care. In this day and age when any prejudice is punced upon and reprimanded it saddened me that the world remained silent. It was to me as if the whole world were silently echoing this sick man's horrible retorts. My mother always said to me "never throw stones when you live in glass house". It is so obvious to me this man is so very clearly in a delicate shelter of some kind. Inside his mind!!!! Please. Look at the picture. No, don't look away. Really scrutinise the picture of this man. Without opening his ridiculous mouth just look at what the picture is saying. I feel sorry for the 'thin' world or the fashion industry if they allow this man to speak for them. How old is he again? Old enough that he should know how to conduct himself in a better manner. If he is the epitome of fashion then he should know that his hairstyle is a crime and enjoyed only a moment in history decades ago. It hasn't come back from history and should it do it doesn't belong on a pensioner!!!! The sunglasses? You might argue they are a fashion statement. I say not unless they are heavily medicated so he can actually see through them to walk his silly little swing. Looked enough yet? Can't see anymore. Let me help you. I'm not entirely unfair, the jacket, the shirt and tie are 'man chic' and stylish for any age but .... The gloves???!!! People, the rock gloves? I ask you again. How old is he??? How about his patterned - don't fit with the rest of the outfilt slightly too tight for an older man troussers? Fashion or Confusion? The mainstream fashion world is losing it's edge if this is the man they look up to.

Well done to the women who are fighting back. I'll be honest I'm not sure if I'd sue. You can do nothing for a man who is obviously ignorant in the head about plus size woman. Like someone in recovery he probably needs educating and reprogramming. His hard drive is tuck in an era when being a mannequin was looked upon as something wonderful. Yeah, all the anorexics and bulimics thank you for your way of thinking Karl. I think NOT! Perhaps we really should feel sorry because after all he is a little old now and he can't help what comes out of his mouth?

Well, Karl, I've been waiting a long time to find the words to rebutt your comments. You may wonder why I take it personally. Well, Karl, when you made those comments and used the word fat you were talking to me. I am fat.  It matters not whether I am by choice or not.  I am fat but above all human. Don't treat me as though I am not human!  Being fat means I have a vice you can see.  What of the vices you have that we can't see?  One assumes they might be worse but because they are hidden you get away with it and feel you have the right to say such horrible things.  But have you really? Here's a lasting comment for you....is that a little grandpa paunch above the waist of your too tight troussers?!  Well I never!!!!  You're actually one of us.  Fat Karl.   How nice.  So this is simply my personal response. A personal opinion. Because you know Karl when you throw comments like you do out there you should learn to catch. See Karl us big people know just how to receive comments and throw them back as well as slim people!

Welcome to the club!!!!
Now we'll see. what you are really made of?  Will you apologise? Pugh! Oh well, take out your teeth, put on your slippers and sip your tea old man!

So mad!

RayRay.
Stay bigYoutiful Ronde, Sexy et Je M'assume! xxx

Monif C, She Gets It!

This woman truly get's how fashionable plus size women want to be and designs her line accordingly.  I love it!!!  My plus size friends across the pond ie US, Canada, do you know how lucky you are?!    I am saving up for a dress from her latest collection.  My treat to myself.  As a designer myself I make a lot of nice clothes for me I think and I like them but it's nice to treat yourself to someone else's beatiful creations once in a while.  Also this woman gets that plus size is all sizes up to whatever.  Not midddle of the range plus size, you know a little bit fat and you call yourself plus size type but some of us SSBBWs get relegated to sleazy websites for the sick minded and are made to wear ridiculous suggestive clothing as if that is all we were good for.  Just saying.  Anytime I see someone as big as me on the internet they're making money sitting on someone?!  Hey!  More power to you. if that's you.  Not trying to judge.  Maybe fatism means you can't get a job anyway but we're all not into that?!  I can't get my dream job for fatism that's why I'm becoming my own boss.  Can we start to acknowledge the obese as plus size people too please?!!!  Some of us don't sit for a living!  Just saying.   I've learnt there is plus size and then there is plus size if you know what I mean.  There's acceptable plus size and then there's those of us people wish would stay out of sight or take part in a circus freak show!  Rant Over.  Not Monif.  No. Not her.  I feel she sees us.  Smaller plus size and biggers plus ize and she's the sexy diva in us all.  She caters for us all!  I've seen bigger plus size women don her clothes and look just as amazing as slightly smaller plus size beauties.  I've see how they look vibrant, young and full of life.  Just by wearing her clothes. That's what clothes sre supposed to do for you.  So when I say she get's it.  Understand where I'm coming from.  Monif you are the absolute Queen of plus size design.  I love all you plus size designers out there.  Don't get me wrong but right now I'm just loving how this woman's style makes me feel on the outside what I am on the inside.  Love it!!! Thanks Monif. :) 

Bring them clothes to the UK soon please.

RayRay xx

The Princess and The Pea

"Everyone wants to be comfortable within his or her own home, and size should not be an issue".



Amen!!!  From late last year I started to suffer from chronic lower back pain.  So bad every morning preparing to go to work in the morning was an ordeal.  I didn't know why all of a sudden it should start to hurt when I hadn't done anything particularly different in my routine.  This went on for months.  It got worse each time.  My doctor just put it down to my excess weight (that's another post right there but not right now) and prescribed me pain killers.  Then one week I went on Annual Leave and didn't go to work for a week.  Almost immediately I felt relief but I just thought it was because whatever was causing my back ache was healed and gone.  I went back to work and I thought nothing of it till a day or two into being back the awful spasms started again.  I couldn't understand it.  It was not until I went away on holiday again a few months later that immediately I stopped going to work my back was fine.  I realised it was the chair I was sitting in that was causing my back pain.  Doing irrepairable damage.  I immediatley  informed my line manager who discovered my office chair was still movable but broken.  When I moved to that department I was given an old chair which is normal to save costs and because it still moved on its wheels it was assumed it was okay but it was already broken.  So when a Health and Safety assessment was done it was revealed a standard chair was not right for me and even the purchase of a new standard chair would damage my back.  They assessed my height which was important for the seat and how the legs would extend from the seat.  They even looked at seat width and back support.  The right chair was ordered and I suffered no back pain until I left my job to go back to university.  I felt bad because the chair cost £800!  But as it happens there were as many people in the office in need of the same chair and it was made use of when I left.   I shared this with my doctor who apologised after I kind of reprimanded him for not looking closely at my symptoms and always just diagnosing 'fat' to everything.  Everything is always "well it's your weight".  Yes, sometimes it is and the darn truth is I still need medical help and support.  Not a put and shut up because you're fat and you did this to yourself treatment!  I really hate that!!!

Anyway, I began to look into the benefits of plus size living and plus size furniture.  So many of us are squeezing ourselves into standard sized chairs, beds and sofas because we feel it's embarrasssing to be seen requiring extra sized items.  After my back pain that thinking for me went out the window.  My comfort of living became as important to me as to the person who enjoys good living from thier furniture everyday.  I realised why some people don't even look at plus size furniture.  The expense!  Often you have to look online for specialist shops which are few and when you do find them if you live in the UK you are looking to pay tripple the cost to include the cost of importing from the US.  So what to do?  If you can afford it buy it.  If you can't but want it then start to save up.  If that takes too long, improvise.

I've got back problems again.  Why?  Because I was too cowardly to insist to my landlord and friend that my physical furniture needs were not and would not be the same as a standard sized person.  Even now my friend cannot truly grap the seriousness of the condition this bed he insisted I use has caused me.  Slimmer people often just don't get it.  Frustrating.  I slept on a futon for a month and now because of previous back pain and with this new pain my back was thrown completely out of alignment.  I've been in pain for longer than a month, am on a cocktail of painkillers to cope with the pain and have to have phsyiotherapy.  Next time I will speak up more and educate someone on why I need to be different. I didn't want to rock the boat and upset our friendship but in the end the pain I was feeling was more than I could bear and I Just had to insist.  I even thought to just leave.  It would have been a shame as I really like the place and area. I don't need a special bed as it happens.  Actually this time a normal divan bed is the right bed for me.  Not too hard and not too soft.  Sturdy enough to cope with my weight.  So sometimes just being wise about the type of furniture you chose is just as good as buying plus size specific furniture.  Another way is to have something custom made for you.  I love custom made anything!  I love having something made for me to my specific wants and needs for that item.  I want to live in comfort just like anyone else so I will not allow anyone to shame me into not personalising my living area in a way that provides me comfort.  When I finish uni and move into my own place again God willing I will be much better prepared.



http://www.plussizefurniture.net/page3.html

Have you got plus size furniture in your home?  How has this helped you?  Has it made life easier for you?  Please share.  At the moment I am in just a room.  The bed situation is being sorted at last but not without some frustration to both parties the landlord and me.  But I know the landlord and I know it's not deliberate.  I just don't know how to articulate the issue I have with his futon and I hate feeling like a pain and a diva.  I don't want to speak out but i I'm to live comfortably I need to.  I just have an issue with the pain this way of living gives me.  He can't understand and I'm okay with that now.  Sometimes I just have to step off my soap box.  My next mission is to find me an office chair I can fit my entire derrier onto.  Right now the one I have barely fits half of one lol!  I use it to hang stuff on. :/  I'm still looking into my extension belt decorations, working on my tees still, writing children's books,creating my scented candle range, creating my mix tunes and attending uni!!!  Can I do it all?!! Perhaps not but I like to set myself a challenge.  Maybe I can.  Maybe you can too? Do it.  Do what you do bigYoutifuls.  Just start.  Whatever it makes your heart happy to work on and share it with other bigYoutifuls and people.

bigYoutifuls be-You-tee-fools!

RayRay xx

Brrrr.....Arrrrgh?!! Plus Size Winter Knits?

Okay....so apologies if the above jumpers and knits are what you like for autumn/ winter style.  They are lovely items of clothing but I don't see how they are to keep a big person like myself adequately and suffciently warm?  Every autuman and winter I live in hope that thick warm wooly kint jumpers and cardigans in my size will finally be available.  Every year I'm wrong.  it's my beef.  Really it is.  We've come alive in the fashion industry for the plus size.  Spring and Summer collections fromt he various designers have been stunning.  But when it comes to Autum and Spring we are sleeping still.  It's left to the catalogues brands to cater for us and they just don't get it right and when they do it will only go up to a size 24.  Errr.....hello?  Plus size is generally up to a size 32.  A fact plus size catalogue companies acknowledge so it's surprising that some of the items contained in thier cataloges will only be provided up to a certian size.  I feel that's a little misleading.  If I'm looking at a catalogue which says 18-32 then I expect to find any item up to a 32.  But it appears what we think and feel doesn't really count. 

Am I wrong?!  I want knits like these:

        

You get the gist.  Not flimsy no button fly away cardigans that barely cover my arm fat!!

I can knit but who has the time these days.  So please big manufacturing Chinese companies.  No one else will do it but will you help me fulfill this dream?  Can you manufacture bigger plus size knits?  Please contact me if you want more specifics.  Happy to help. :)





RayRay xx

That Uphill Climb

Know the one I mean?  Sometimes, forgive the pun, the 'weight' of people's prejudices gets you down.  I feel like in spite of my weight I am a confident person who is trying to do her thing in the world.   I have recently started 2 businesses and gone back to university!  What's my weight got do with it I ask you?!!!  You would be surprised how many people try to stand in your way because it's almost as if they believe a fat person does not deserve success.  It's  a sad state of affairs.  It really is.  In experiencing fat prejudice I have come to see that though as human beings we have evolved so much with the advancement of technology etc.  there are human traits which keep some of us ignorant and no better than the first cave men and women.  People's attitudes to big people are either down right rude and cruel or overly sympathetic and disingenious.  What that says to me is no matter how intelligent man becomes certain topics and subjects show how silly they really are.  Fatism has got be the one of the last acceptable forms of prejudice in the globe.  No shame is even attached to it.  So much so some people feel they can comment to a perfect stranger about the state of thier weight.  It is almost more acceptable to be a an alcoholic, a drug addict or an anorexic.  For that you will recieve lots of charitable support.  For being overweight you are chastised, ridiculed and purposefully made to suffer for your 'greediness'.  How is they can understand the addiction to drugs and alcohol and not to food?  Are not the same breain receptors being overtaken whatever the weapon of choice?  I'm so glad that all over the world the movement of big people are supporting each other to live happier and even healthier lives.  Being happy is being healthy at whatever size.  I'm not just a plus size advocate I'm a happy advocate.  Life is too short to live all of it trying to please a percentage of the population whose hatred of fat is a result of thier mental illness.  It's not our problem bigYoutifuls. It's thiers. Remember that.  I try to.  But it's hard when at uni, as a Mature Student, I'm thrown the odd hurtful comment, the raucus laughter as I approach, the side glances on the London tube on your way to uni, in a shop, at the airport etc. etc.  I try to remember whilst I might be the cause of all the attention how people respond says more about them not me.  What kind of human being do you have to be to be so hurtful to a perfect stranger.  Can you call yourself kind?  Can you call yourself tolerant?  I think not!  Absolutley not!!!  I say to that "sometimes society you just plain ain't nice!".  True that.  But, I won't let that stop me trying to live my dream.  I started my fashion business out of a necessity to message fashion designers that you cannot punish us with your tent designs forever.  Around the globe the fat fashion explosion is happening and the most amazing clothes are making big woman stunning and beautiful.  Making them feel beautiful and happy.  There I go again.  It's a;; about the happy people! ;) I'm loving IGIGI and Monif C right now.  There the hundreds of other designers doing amazing things.   We want to encourage big men to catch up to it too.  There are lifestyle choices for big people now too.  I'm loving chairs made for my size.  I can sit at my desk and work away without trying to navigate a one bum chair!  How about accepting yourself. Adapting life to you.  Not trying to live it the way a smaller person does.  That will only make you miserable.  Adapt your living area to suit you.  Get bigger chairs, bigger softer beds, bigger showers, baths, bigger sofas, whatever it takes!!! Don't let them get you down biYOutifuls.  I do get down sometimes too.  I heard it once in a movie I watched that black workers in Amercia feel when they work with white people they have to pay what is known unofficially as the 'Black Tax'.  This simply means they need to work twice as hard to be considered equal to their white counterparts.  I have no idea how true this is but I certainly feel that most of my adult overweight life I have had to pay the 'Big Tax'.  I have to work 3 times as hard as Slim People.  Have you had to?  Do share. Would love to know about it and hear how you dealt with it.  At the moment I feel like I'm swimming up stream.  It's hard.  But I ain't got to stop unless God makes me.  I'll keep trying to reach my goal.  I encourage you too.  Do your thing bigYoutiful. Don't worry about the uphill climb.  There are many of us climbing up the same hill with you and support is here if you need it.  I'm a kind of an agony aunt too so if you need the support right now leave me a comment with your personal email and I'll try to support you with where you're at right now.  Just syaing. :)  

Live your life be free!!!  Stay happy.  Stay bigYoutiful!

RayRay xx

WooHoo! It's My Birthday!

...but I can't party like it's my birthday. :(  Haven't been feeling too great so I start off the day with a doctors appointment and I have to attend a writing workshop the rest of the day.  But am feeling powered up anyway because of all my friends and family's good wishes.  :)  Powers you up I'm telling you!  It's great.  I'm blessed to know so many wonderful people.  Can't wait to see my cake that my sister's baked.  Talented girl. It's my favourite too.  Sad that my daddy's not here to wish me happy birthday anymore but I feell his love for me today.   I miss him so much.

Anywho....  bigYoutifuls itmight be my birthday but wishing you all a happy good day! :)

RayRay xx