Hello beYOUtifuls!
A very warm welcome to my brand new blog. I've been thinking about doing this a long time and I'm really looking forward to getting started. Like my blog title? Cute huh? Love it! Love it! Love it! It says everything I want to say to people just like me. People living with weight and being happy with who they are. Inside and out. The world's meaning for what is beautiful has gotten skewed over the years but I like to think that it's just the spelling that changed. I like to think that whoever invented the word meant that to be truly beautiful you had to be happy with who you were inside. To be you. Be yourself and that this should be the basis for our own happiness. To be beautiful you have to be-YOU-tiful. Because of all the skewed thinking about people who live with weight I struggled to understand who I was. Instead I allowed skewed thinking to infiltrate my head and my heart so that I carried around horrible feelings of self hatred and body dismorphia. Now that was a heavy weight! Until I realised that I had to discover who I really was on the inside and that it was down to me to educate myself about how to live with my weight. Then maybe, just maybe the critical world at large could learn from me, or you (if you're plus size too) and others all over the world like us about this. Since I started this journey I have learnt so much about myself and I am beginning to feel for the first time in my life the embers of the fire of independence and freedom. I've learnt so much from self discovery and from others further along this same journey. So encouraging, so positive, so healing. I want to help too and hope to share my discoveries and thoughts within this blog. But I am not a girl that will ever be defined This blog won't just be about plus size living, fashion, music, health, etc. It'll be what it will be. From a plus size girl's perspective.
Finally, what an inspiring start for my new blog this week. In last week's Best Magazine here in the UK is a story about one of our best loved English actresses/comediennes Dawn French. She is incredibly talented and has been successful for a long time as a plus size woman. Recently she got a lot of positive publicity about having lost all her weight in the summer by being on a certain drastic weight loss programme that I'd lost weight on myself before. She looked great but I knew having gone on the diet myself how hard it was to smile on the outside but really hurt on the inside. It hurts to lose weight that big and that fast. No one tells you what you have to sacrifice inside to get there. Now she is putting it back on. I know the pressure all too well. She apparently has found a new man who loves her just as she was before the weight loss. Herself. That is beautiful. Someone, loves her in spite of weight and is allowing her to be herself. It's great! That's what it is all about. I am sure as big as she is Dawn is still trying to stay healthy but doing it as she is via the person she is on the inside and not via some desperate measure or health programme to make her beautiful on the outside.
So I say to Dawn - and to you all - beYOUtiful, bigYOUtifuls!!!
Lots of Love
Ray Ray xx
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