Happy New Year BigYoutifuls!

Happy New Year bigYoutifuls!

Truly, may it be a year in which you are truly happy, your lives filled with love and a year in which you accomplish all of your dreams.

I want to thank you regular and passers by of my blog so  so much.  Without you I could not express what it is to live as a plus size person from my perspective.  I've come a long way from hating myself to just existing because I didn't feel I'd had the right to experience life in the same way my 'normal' family and friends did,  The day I was released from that it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders and I could breathe for the first time.  It was an amazing feeling to know I could be myself.  I wasn't the problem.  Other people and their perceptions were.  So when I started this blog my main goal was to help someone else come to that realisation.  To understand what it is to be truly beautiful and how to live in a way which can increase your quality of life as a bigger person.   I have sort of fumbled along sharing with you whatever's been on my mind. And that's been great.  I want to keep that quality about myself in my blogs but I also want to be better at communicating important tips and advice.  Tips which will enhance your quality of life and make you happier so that you too can pay it forward.    I have been writing a book about the practical ways in which a big person can live their life.  From Hygiene, Furniture, Travel & Transport, to Fashion.  I haven't been very strong on the fashion thing I know because I wanted people to know first and foremost the thing to work on is yourself.  To be you.  You have to learn that you know.  Because when you're big you learn to adopt another persona and you hide yourself away.  You present instead the part of yourself that is mostly acceptable to people.  For me it was the Joker role.  I let people stamp all over me and I laughed it off.  That's why they liked me.  I was someone they could freely exercise their cruelty on because 'I could take it'.  Yes, I knew what was going on but the thought of being rejected seemed far worse.  I still like to joke today but that's genuinely part of my character.  I do however, let people know when they are crossing boundaries.  It's hard for them.  They feel they should be able to still treat me that way and don't understand why I have changed the rules. It's simple.  I'm now being like them.  I'm being myself and I value myself now.
I want that for every big person who goes through this with people in their lives.  I reckon people with weight issues are special because the gifts and talents are so amazing somewhere or someone in their life made them hide it.  Discover your talent.  Improve upon it this year. Find yourself this year.  If there's one thing you do.  Find yourself.  Recognise yourself.  If you do then write me about it.  Tell me who you think you are.   Do you know?  I'm still learning but at least I can tell you a lot more about my likes and dislikes now.  I can tell you significant aspects of my character that I discovered about myself now.  It's an amazing feeling.  I encourage you whole heartedly.  I love this poem by Marianne Williamson and when I came across it I felt she had written it for me.  It resonated deep within me.  It felt true in a why that I can't explain.  Because you see, often, it is not that we are not good enough that people don't like us.  They keep us down because we are too good!  Read it, enjoy and happy new year bigYoutifuls!

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Lots of Love this 2014,

RayRay xxx

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