Well, you know how it is. You get used to it. Someone feeling the need to exercise the moral high ground or people feeling the need to check they're still more beautiful than you. And what better way to do it than to make fun of you. A total stranger. Minding your own business. Fat shaming. The new sport. Their horrible motto is (and I made this up but there's some truth to it):
If you're not skin and bone then you're fair game and prone!
No one wants to really understand why people get where they are and if I'm minding my own business what does it matter what I look like? I'm not affecting your life whatsoever! I'm working and paying taxes like everyone else and I reckon that affords me the right and same quality of life as anyone else! That includes walking down a street to spend my hard earned cash on whatever I choose without being verbally attacked or ridiculed by an ignorant society! If the sight of me hurts your eyes, look away or wear sunglasses! Leave me alone!!!
Sorry, I had to have a rant today because even though this has happened countless times and I ignore it today it got to me. Because I saw it happen to someone else. I could see she was hurt deep. I could almost hear and feel her heart shatter. Fat shaming does not help anyone but feeds the shamer's need to be cruel. That's all it is. Like stepping on a bug for no reason in the world. No-one's saying we aren't fat and that we all, fat or thin, always have work to do on becoming healthy. No one knows the struggle and battles we have with it. But being kind and considerate and supportive is the first step to help us in the right direction. Not shaming us. Even if you don't want to help. Leave us alone. Keep quiet and mind your own business before I start pointing out your flaws! My vice is one which shows on my body but how about your drinking, smoking 'slim' people? Just coz your vices are hidden from sight doesn't make you any better than a person whose fat.
And yes, I''m saying it, if you feel the need to fat shame or shame anyone then you want to check yourself because aren't those the exact same qualities that bad people possess? Racists for example? Racism makes no sense and neither does fat shaming! Just because you can or is true doesn't make it right.
Of course, you know me, I've penned a poem. It says what I feel about this fat shaming trend:
When walking down the street
And all eyes are on me
Sniggering and giggling
Coz they say I’m obese
Really don’t know what to say
And I don’t know why they hate
I’m struggling to undertake
Coz I don’t see who
are they to rate
Pointing fingers never helped no-one
Your judgemental ways are what are wrong
I’m the fat girl yes I know it’s true
But you’re the rude one fingers back at you!
Shame on you…
You don’t have the license
And it doesn’t even make no sense
To fat shame is useless
Coz you just ain’t innocent
My vice shows on the outside
And yours is on the inside
Just coz you can hide your lie
Get the log out of your own eye
Make yourself feel good at my expense
Self Worth and Positivity is my defence
I’m not hearing what you say or do
Leave me alone coz I’m not hurting you
Pointing fingers never helped no-one
Your judgemental ways are what are wrong
If you have to fat shame someone then you are sad
Check yourself first fore you call me fat!
God loves me just the way I am
That’s why I’m His biggest fan
The ultimate being in all the world
Fat as I am I’m His beautiful girl.
Shame on you.
By Maria Creisson
Stay beyoutiful and kind,
RayRay xx
