Yep! I'm having one of those days! I am so sick and tired of the obesity talk. Don't get me wrong, I know, as do many other 'obese' folk how important an issue it is. Believe me I do. I would like to lose some weight and I will keep trying. But I'm damned if I'm going to continue to sit here and pretend that skinny people, doctors and politicians have the answers! Really?! I'm sorry I've come to the conclusion none of them know what they are talking about! Full stop!!!
Why if obesity is a growing number in the global community has there been no significant medical research and improvement? Why is the answer always surgery? Pills? Starvation diets? Ever year more and more get slim diets appear but yet the problem is growing.
I'm going to have to calm down to make sense of what I want to say here.
How many of you have had 'helpful people' or a stranger in your life suggest a diet to you?
What is wrong with these people?!!!???? Arrrgh!!!! Since when has any diet been so successful that it has eradicated obesity for good?!!! C'mon people?!!! How many of them who have lost the weight have kept it off for their life time? Have you ever watched a programme where it showed a successful natural slimmer had kept it off for a long time? Let's say a decade or even 20 years post diet? Have you seen such a programme? I haven't! I don't think one exists. Because they don't like to say it doesn't work. Success stories aren't necessarily long term and sustainable stories that's for sure!!! But brethren, sisters, where is that 'gooood' news? Pray, surely if one 'diets' one will be healthy and slim for life?! Where is he, where is she of such amazing accomplishment? Please produce this gifted and talented dieter so they may share the keys to their success. I am highly doubtful that such a person exists and if they do good on 'em! It worked for them! I've been feeling for a while some misery at the global government's attitude towards the problem. They have been steadily drip feeding the global community suggestive untruths about obesity. They are encouraging and giving license to people to enact out their ignorance and prejudice against people with weight issues. But let's go back to the 'diet' industry. How profitable is such an industry that more and more people enter this market? To enter this market you must have some idea that there is going to be a lucrative market. How would you know this? Well, you would have your ear to the ground about what is going on in the food industry wouldn't you? You'd know that such and such have approved chemically engineered foods which will cause chemical reactions in some people causing obesity wouldn't you? More future clients for you then right? Right! :/
So then the politicians come out and say how obesity is a problem and it's the obese people to blame. How obesity is costing the nation. What are the figures exactly minister? For I never seem to hear any actual figures. And in which area particularly? Food? Far as I know you don't dish out for free? We all have to buy it. Someone makes a profit from the chemically genetically engineered artificial food you approved for consumption? I guess you must mean medical. Yes, I need the doctor for things. I have a human body like any other person. But what I would like to know is how much more I am costing in medicine than someone slim? Exactly? How can I be costing anyone anything when my own doctors don't even truly understand how to help me? And why don't they? I've talked about his before. Maybe the World Heath Organisation can provide some answers. How much part of a student doctor's medical studies is devoted to understanding and treating obesity? Surgeons learn about bariatrics but cutting people open to bring them to size can't be the only option after all this time? They're all happy to say it's a problem but I don't see anyone in the 'know' actually doing much about it. They're saying it but not showing it? In my book actions speak louder than words! So if my doctor ain't getting much learnin' how the hell he gonna treat me?!??!!!? Round and round in circles until you give up and go for a life threatening operation! That can work. That's great for those it does. But I am sad for the countless more who developed serious complications or worse. My doctors used to delight in telling me if I din't do anything about my weight I would die. They are right of course. I could die. From anything! Doctors do this usually because they have come to the end of their limited knowledge on obesity and so try to scare and shock you into it.
Don;t get me wrong. They are right. Absolutely right. Weight is not trivial. You know this people. You should always be learning about your body and what you put into it. Learn to 'map' yourself and understand your own personal psychology. It's all connected. Heart, Mind, Body and Soul. You can't even begin to attempt to change the body if you haven't dealt with issues in the mind, heart and soul. I'm telling you. This is what brought this bit of a rant on. I watched a guy on youtube who had lost over 200 pounds (I think) and was still on his journey. He had done so well. Then he shared a vlog about his depression and his issues. He thought, because this is what the world would have us believe, if he shed the weight his other problems would disappear. Instead his problems became more prominent and almost unbearable for him. Losing weight is only one part of the journey. I came to this epiphany in my mid 30s and am 42 now. It's a vicious circle where what we really need, the magic 'diet' ingredients are love, acceptance and understanding. If we had those we could be more than motivated knowing that fail or succeed people were going to remain constant in their feelings toward us. Any time you have to lose weight for acceptance something is wrong people! There are more genuine reasons to lose weight and they are not what the world is telling you it is. If you have issues then visit a doctor. The right doctor. To deal with those issues. Or join a support group. A plus size group. Despite what people think plus size groups are not a bunch of fat people encouraging each other to eat more cake! Eating is not the issue! Then when you, no one else, you, are ready you can start to attempt this. You heart, mind, body and soul have to come into alignment to be powerful enough to try to lose weight. I once lost weight on a diet I designed. It was great. I didn't pretend to like exercise and just concentrated on the diet. I lost a bit and found myself being able to move a bit more naturally anyway. I know if I go to a gym I ain't going back! So I stopped lying to myself about that! I like to eat to feel full so I made sure there were a lot of things Iike apples, melon etc. I ate lots and still lost weight. I couldn't keep it up because guess what? Where I live fruit and vegetables cost! Yep more expensive than bread! I'm not rich so what am I going to afford? You got it. Bread! :/ Tell me politicians? What is that about? You want to do something about obesity? Then send me a box of fruit and vegetables every week! Free! I'll show you I can do it then. But that's me. Someone else it may be something different which helps them. This is when doctors should really listen and give practical help. It won't cost them as much as a £10 000 bariatric surgery! And as for politicians the profits you make from chemical food engineering companies is how much?!
But I guess I have to accept some responsibility in order to be completely balanced in my rant. Why oh why did we hand over control about what is so important to us to people who don't really have a clue? Go to your doctor for things you are sore about. Broken foot, cold, headache etc. But about your weight? Take control. A footballer doesn't go to the fan in the audience and ask for help? He kicks that ball and thinks instinctively what move to make next. That fan wouldn't have a clue would he/she? They'd have the guy lose the match in the end! That's why when we try we fail. We've got the wrong help! We need to learn to live instinctively always learning about ourselves and others like us. That's what we're doing as a community. Let's find our own information and share it with each other and continue in the wonderful support that is the global plus world community. Health is very important and we should listen to our doctors. I'm not advocating anarchy but what I am saying is it's time you told them what is really going on with your body and influence them in the right way. It won't work getting advice from someone who has never been fat. They need to be quiet for just a little while and listen to you for a change!
As for the ignorant 'skinnies' what do they know? They don't even know why they are skinny. Someone I knew was a heavy drinker and smoker who delighted in saying within hearing of a lard crowd how worried they were for my weight. One day I snapped back and said before you worry about my fat heart you should try worrying about your charred lung and dry liver! We had equal health issues but she saw that because my vice was 'visible' she could hide her own health issues behind her weight. Lol! Still funny to this day and she has never done it again! But being skinny doesn't mean you are healthy either!
Okay rant over. Every now and again it gets me you know. Anyway, saw this and I thought this is how I'll deal with some of the unhelpful 'helpful' advice I get in the future.
Stay beyoutiful bigYoutifuls!
RayRay xx
