The Emotional Aspect of Healing is Critical

Wow!  Finding this clip was amazing for me.  I came to my own epiphany a few years back about how with any phyial condition which seemed to linger longer than necessary, cancer (God forbid), obesity etc. the most important aspect to begin with is your emotions.  I write about this in my book soon to be published on Amazon albeit I am no medical expert, nutritionist or guru.  I just came to the realisation that no matter how successful I would be at losing weight I would always gain it back because I had not really dealt with the real issue of the deep emotional blockages and complexities.  I have only just now started to really try to understand what my emotional issues are and I haven't even touched the surface of them.  But what encourages me is that I now know that no diet is worth it or long term possible it if if doesn't begin with emotional well being.  It's satisfying to see that more and more people are speaking up about this.  I think in part obesity is a condition whose roots and foundations are those steeped in emotional disability but which are difficult to diagnose because they can be hidden so well.  Even from the sufferer!



Check your emotions won't you?  And if it's hard to focus on them or you become confused as to what your emotional health looks like you've probably identified the first symptom that there is actually a problem right there!  Every time I try to focus on my emotions I find myself distracted or unwilling to dig deep past the level of comfortableness.  I rationalise my decision not to dig deep by saying to myself how ridiculous the action is.  I manage to convince myself I'm being silly, that my emotions are fine when in reality they are not.  In my subconscious I know the pain which will come with digging as deep as I will need to to find the blockages.  But of course I do have emotional problems because when I cry from an emotional hurt or I feel depressed those hidden emotions peek through to let me know they are there so I block them wih the satiety that comes from food.  I don't know I'm doing it.  But when I feel full from food my emotions are miraculously kept at bay.  It's temporary so as soon as I start to feel hungry those emotions threaten to come out and I feel that need to shut them down again.  I know this now.  I still don't quite understand it but I know this is somehow true.  Because the feeling of hunger reminds me of all the other feelings deep down which are just as bad.  It's just that the hunger feeling seems too shout the loudest and is the most aggresive.  It threatens me and food and the feeling of feeding hunger physically shuts it up!  Doesn't make it go away.  It always comes back!



Feelings of the pain from rejection, non-acceptance etc. don't just go away either.  They hurt and do damage then bury themselves deep within your psyche.  Directing from hidden positions your every move from then on.  We are the puppets of our emotions.  They can take up more space than is allowed in every aspect of our lives.  Emotions are necessary to well being don't get me wrong.  But could it be that sometimes they build up more and more within us so that we are paralysed by them and other functions like the ability to diet and think straight become distorted?  Perhaps there are bad emotions lurking alongside the good emotions and we need to get rid of them.  Some emotions are injured and need repairing.  The most common emotional problem for plus sized people like myself is low self esteem.  This emotion is so big a problem globally it is something that is publicly addressed.  But the other bad emotions are never given any importance and silently continue on with their work of destroying your health.



Start to figure out what you can do to find out the temperature of your emotional well being.  Don't just delve into it.  This has to be done sensitively and with a plan.  If you have faith this is an excellent way to keep your strength up for what will almost surely be a battle of battles.  Tackling your own emotions is not going to be easy.  They have gained strength from their number (like legion) and know sneakily how to avoid detection or capture!  Lol.  I hope you get what I mean.  But make sure you are in a safe environment mentally because your emotions have the power to take control of your mind.  You will need to separate your emotions from your mind.  Kind of like the head vs the heart battle we commonly hear about.   Have a back up plan.  Have your support ready for when you delve in and possibly have to feel those feelings again in order to identify them and correct them.  Who wants to hurt over?  No one!  But just leaving the hurt there?  You may as well know you aren't going to get too far in your health journey unless you tackle it!



Courage mon brave!



Stay beyoutiful  bigYoutiful!



RayRay xx